What Holds People Back?


I had an interesting conversation with someone the other day.  It was one of those mentally draining conversations where someone literally sucks the life right out of you.  I would go into the details but…. it would literally traumatized you.  So instead I will give a perception on what is holding this person back and how you can avoid that yourself.  We as humans are typically a repository of our experiences.  These experiences that we have had over the course of our lives shape who and what we are.  We then develop our view of the world from all of these experiences.  However, our experiences can and do help us but they can also hold us back.  In general people like to play things safe and not “step out of the box” so to speak and try new things.  This particularly is true for adults!  There is a lot of truth in that we have to learn from our experiences and also from those that we know and who have gone before us.  Yet, in the end we have to make our own experiences and choices of how we will live.  There are only a few things in the world that are universal truths.  One is that change does and always will happen and those that can adapt the best will enjoy life the most.  The second is that because of constant change there will always be some strife.  Managing this strife is essential because you will have change in your life and strife will happen and if you can overcome it and manage it well you will be one happy person!  So what holds people back in life?  They have experiences and they get trapped in them and cannot find a way around, through or over them.  In other words they cannot manage the strife in a way that allows them to move forward effectively.  So they get trapped by their experiences and the changes that were caused and the inability to manage the strife effectively.  History and your life experiences are important!  They make up who you are and where you come from.  However, until you leave this planet you will have constant chances at new experiences.  Some will be painful but… most will be pretty cool if you manage them well!  However, if you let yourself be trapped in an experience then you will just drain anyone that comes in contact with you!  My advice to people is to enjoy life!  Know where you came from and where you want to go.  Love history and learn from it.  However, experience new things as much as possible and always try to enjoy the changes that they bring!    While change and strife are a constant they should be some thing that you enjoy and embrace!

Copyright: Instinctive Response Training LLC 2011

Brian R. VanCise

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About Brian VanCise

Hi my name is Brian R. VanCise and my passion is the Martial Sciences. I have trained almost my entire life in the pursuit of martial excellence and I teach a world class curriculum in Las Vegas, Nevada. Contact us at: 702-326-3622
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3 Responses to What Holds People Back?

  1. Tim says:

    Another great post, Thanks Brian

    But to but in in other words, as a Buddhist would say…. Attachment is the problem

    There is a pretty good book out there, for free on the internet, that might help people with this if they really want to change and get out of their own way.

    Becoming Your Own Therapist by Lama Thubten Yeshe

  2. Brian VanCise says:

    Hey thanks for that book reference Tim!

  3. Mike Hamer says:

    This was inspiring!

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